Watching Blue Velvet again a few days ago, it really struck me how much of a douche Kyle MacLachlan's character is. His ways of charming Sandy - hideously cringeworthy 'Egyptian walk' and his hilarious anecdote "I once knew a boy with the biggest tongue... (yeh, that's it)". Also, the way he 'helps' Isabella Rossellini's character by fucking her and physically abusing her, and his "Why are there people like Frank!?"

I know he's meant to be a flawed amateur hero, but was it intentional to make him so annoying or did Kyle's acting have a hand in it? Does he strike everyone else as this as well? I mean, I kind of enjoyed Frank beating him up, and almost wanted him to catach Jeffrey at the end.

"Harry, I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it, don't wait for it, just let it happen. Could be a new shirt at the men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot, black coffee. Like this."  -Dale Cooper

doesnt frank say to jeffery "youre like me" after they leave pussy heaven and have pulled over? and tho jeffery eventually responds by punching frank, at first he looks like frank had said something too close to home for him. as sandy implies, hes part detective, part pervert. i doubt the pretty secretive lynch would put himself into a character as much as you are insinuating. maybe their backgrounds the same(lynch and kyle did both grow up in the northwest in small towns), but to think jeffery is a version of lynch is misguided, i think.

i totally agree. i meant it more in response to giospurs first post, which was about jeffery's general character.
 

He's not a douche it reminds me of being a kid just young and innocent ,goodhearted and charming. As you get older and meet women you realise that there is a diffrent side to life.

 There are things about life you don't get taught as a kid you have to discover them for yourself like the pain and joy of sex.

I've never thought about Blue Velvet too much there does not seem much that seems to be analyzed but it is very deep and is a male orientated film much as Mulholland Drive is female orientated and Lost Highway is Male driven.

Innocent straight character meets psycho chick and her psycho husband and becomes something diffrent. Not a douche

Surely they were douches because it made Frank all the more evil. That's the idea, innit? The only characters that seem real are the evil ones. They act so bad the nice ones. So bad actings. So bad. 

He's is quite naive with Dorothy in bed. It really seems she makes him hit her. She preys on him... He is scared to talk about it, even think about it.

But he does treat Sandy badly. I don't like how he tells her not to take that attitude when she tells him breaking in is crazy and stupid (which it was.)

Like a douche, he must go from the light into a dark place.

Like a douche, Jeffrey also squirts fluid throughout the movie. All over Dorothy's apartment and in her, and whenever he says the word "mystery!"