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26. Saturday, November 15, 2008 5:29 AM
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I've spoken to Amanda about this, but i'd like to re-iterate that i'm terribly sorry to hear about this news. Although i never knew her, i remember her presence on the board from years ago, and from the pictures shown here she was a beautiful person who shall be terribly missed.

I truly hope that the memorial tomorrow will be as lovely as the person that it mourns for, and celebrates the life of. My thoughts and prayers are with those affected by this.

 
27. Tuesday, November 18, 2008 8:55 PM
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In case you aren't following E-man's website/blog, here's a link to his photos from Sam's memorial this past weekend.


~ Amanda

"Just fear me, love me, do as I say and I will be your slave..."

 
28. Wednesday, November 19, 2008 3:39 PM
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Thanks for posting that, Amanda.



 
29. Wednesday, December 3, 2008 3:35 PM
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i'm not going to pretend we were the best of friends but there was a time i talked with her pretty regularly. we were good enough friends that we exchanged a few tapes through the mail.  she ended up with my VHS copy of the old bbc hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy, that should give some idea of the high esteem i held her in

when we were both at the fest, on the night of the big silly dinner, she looked so happy to have a reason to dress up all fancy-like. she looked terrific and elegant, but still had the saddest eyes i've ever seen.  we went for a walk in the woods, and she knew so much about all the plants, even which berries she could eat right off the branches

some people are born way, way too tender-hearted and the world doesn't care and beats the shit out of them anyway. from what little i knew/know about what she went through i admire her for hanging on as long as she did. RIP

 

 
30. Friday, December 5, 2008 8:03 PM
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Sam and Mace

Sam and Mace (October 25th, 2003)

Sam was one of the frequent visitors to the Twin Peaks Chatroom that I have hosted on my website since 2002. By chance it turned out that Sam's grandmother lived in NJ (where I live) so we made plans to get together for lunch the next time she flew in from Kansas. We went out for lunch on October 25th, 2003 and we had a lot of fun talking about Twin Peaks/David Lynch items and the 2003 TP Festival she had just been to. I'm glad I had the opportunity to meet her in person.

Intelligent, funny and kind hearted... she will be missed by all.



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31. Sunday, December 7, 2008 10:54 AM
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QUOTE:

I agree, generally, that suicide should be talked about delicately, out of respect to the family.

I know you have a journalism degree, too, Amanda. Whenever a teacher/journalism textbook discusses writing obituaries, they always say that the information in it is for historical public record and the greater social good, and to not be coy about it. Just say it.  It's the same thing when you write that a person died (as opposed to more gentle euphemisms, like passed away or went to a God, or to a better place.) When a family writes the obit, it's understandably more difficult to do that.

The idea is the more frank we are about suicide, the more the public can recognize clinical depression as a problem, and maybe even other families of suicide victims can feel like their pain is shared. Depression is important to be honest about for genealogy records, too, as there's evidence that mental illnesses are inherited. People constantly use library's old newspaper files to trace their family background.

The more we talk about it, the less shame and stigma surrounds it.  It just changes the way we feel about suicide when it hits closer to us, as it should. For instance, if suicide hadn't been explicitly mentioned here, I wouldn't have known. But I'd rather know.  I'm sure lots of people who knew Sam would. 

Wow, that's one of the best posts I have ever read on this forum. I completely agree. Very sad to hear about Sam... I can't say I knew her, but she seemed like a wonderful person. 


 


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32. Tuesday, December 23, 2008 8:12 AM
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I'm just dropping by to thank my extended internet family for helping me out these past few weeks.

You folks are awesome.



 
33. Tuesday, December 30, 2008 6:41 AM
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Here is a piece written about Sam by the North Coast Journal, a local weekly. A couple caveats:

While it may be factually accurate, I do not think it is a complete picture.

It may make you angry, and it might even make you cry.

Click this

 



 
34. Tuesday, December 30, 2008 8:59 AM
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It is definitely not a complete picture, but I think that's because Sam kept parts of her life very compartmentalized from the rest. So a lot of her North Coast friends didn't know her in the same respect that many of us knew her. On the up side though, it gives others who knew her from the Gazette and the festival a bigger picture on the kind of human being that Sam was. The article did indeed make me cry and make me very angry, but only because it served as a reminder of all the things about Sam that made her special to me and how little I did to ever try and help her out along the way.


~ Amanda

"Just fear me, love me, do as I say and I will be your slave..."

 
35. Tuesday, December 30, 2008 9:33 AM
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the way i cope when i'm upset is through humor (it's the way my family is, the way i was raised), which ironically always pissed sam off. my grandma had a series of very dehabilitating strokes this year and in the aftermath my family turned into the writer's room from 30 rock.

anyway if some jackassery sneaks through in this thread, that's the only reason why.

the main thing i took away from the article that i didn't know before is how brilliant and into her work she was. i mean i knew she was smart, but i somehow never caught on to the fact that she was so out there, DOING stuff.

there's some anger to be had, i think the person that was quoted who said that the world as a whole failed her hit it right on the head (someone that depressed having to struggle with an insurance company? ffs!). definitely anger for her father, who clearly has his own demons to wrestle with. even a little just for sam, for ducking out the back door. but part of me is just glad she's not in pain any more. is that wrong of me to think? i hope not.

 
36. Tuesday, December 30, 2008 10:17 AM
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Y'all are trying to drag me back to posting, aren't you?

Yeah, Sam was a bit of a compartmentalist . . . I think we all are to some degree. The piece is definitely a north coast view, contrasted with the Sam we knew as a peaker. Both of which were smaller parts of the Sam I knew.

Brilliant? I felt automatically smarter just by being in the same room with Sam.

 

 



 
37. Tuesday, December 30, 2008 12:06 PM
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Thanks for posting that article.  What a tragedy.  I would have been proud to know her.  My condolences to the TP'ers here who did know her, and to the north coasters who lived with her. 

 
38. Tuesday, December 30, 2008 4:05 PM
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I never had the gift to know Sam. But she was obviously an earth angel. The article made me, a complete stranger, cry.

 
39. Tuesday, December 30, 2008 5:05 PM
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Sam is the reason I went back to school because she was doing the things I'd always envisioned myself doing and her work and her brain inspired me to make a mid-life change. She told me how smart I was and that I should do what moved me the most. I'm fucking sad that I never once told her the effect she had on me. I had the chance and I failed. All I can do from here on out is finish my degree and try to do the same good she was doing. For someone who had to spend a lot of her life being shit upon by others, she had a humongous warm heart that she wrapped around everything she encountered. I should have done the same for her.


~ Amanda

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40. Tuesday, December 30, 2008 6:53 PM
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QUOTE:I never had the gift to know Sam. But she was obviously an earth angel. The article made me, a complete stranger, cry.


Aye, and it really is a big pile of suck that so many of y'all had to learn about Sam this way.

Some of us never gave up on her, and that makes what happened hurt even more. I wrote on my blog recently that Everyone who met Sam came away enriched in some way. Any of you that had the good fortune to meet her will undoubtedly agree.

 



 
41. Tuesday, December 30, 2008 10:13 PM
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QUOTE:...she had a humongous warm heart that she wrapped around everything she encountered...

 

Well said. A rare and precious ability that not everyone is capable of.

 
42. Tuesday, December 30, 2008 11:46 PM
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Well, I did not know her, except through meeting her at the 2003 Fest. We spoke of living in Hawai'i. I am very sorry to learn of her passing and read about her life. She was obviously a committed individual, to making the world better, in her own way. The world will miss her beautiful energy. My heartfelt sympathies to all who knew her better...

 

 
43. Tuesday, January 20, 2009 5:18 PM
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It wasn't on the birthday list, but Sam would have been 29 today.



 
44. Wednesday, January 21, 2009 11:37 PM
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Same bd as Lynch. 

She missed the inauguration.  And so much more.

Susan


     
“Half a truth is often a great lie.”

 

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45. Thursday, January 22, 2009 3:08 AM
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Thanks to Bill for starting this thread. My path never crossed Sam's on TPG. I'm sad I didn't get a chance to chat but kind of glad I don't feel the hurt of her loss now. But I'd have liked to have known her and taken the pain.

Condolences to all her friends.

Monty

 
46. Thursday, January 22, 2009 10:59 AM
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QUOTE:

Same bd as Lynch. 

She missed the inauguration.  And so much more.

Susan


That's how I was able to remember DL's birthday.

Some of you brave souls have read about the so much more on my blog. 



 

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