"Harry, I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it, don't wait for it, just let it happen. Could be a new shirt at the men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot, black coffee. Like this."  -Dale Cooper

"Harry, I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it, don't wait for it, just let it happen. Could be a new shirt at the men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot, black coffee. Like this."  -Dale Cooper

The only reason that women feel the need to marry is because the propaganda machine has told them so.  I appreciate the team mate aspect but as a divorcee I can say that men turn into control freak make me dinner cavemen when you marry them.  I'm all for long term with no papers.  If you have a special something they won't go anywhere.  And it doesn't always involve letting them "hit you in the can".

I think that article was only for women who want or have kids.  I fall into neither catagory.

"Harry, I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it, don't wait for it, just let it happen. Could be a new shirt at the men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot, black coffee. Like this."  -Dale Cooper

lol   

"Harry, I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it, don't wait for it, just let it happen. Could be a new shirt at the men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot, black coffee. Like this."  -Dale Cooper

i think all this is really valid, but i also think marriage can work

the reason i finally went for it was that i stopped putting marriage up on some pedestal. so what if it all falls apart in 10 years? it's great now, so what the hell. might as well make it official, if only for the tax breaks. as long as there aren't any kids it's not going to effect anyone else, really

"Harry, I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it, don't wait for it, just let it happen. Could be a new shirt at the men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot, black coffee. Like this."  -Dale Cooper

eh there's no reason to rush it

it's not like it's more rewarding than the previous three years we spent "just" dating

"Harry, I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it, don't wait for it, just let it happen. Could be a new shirt at the men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot, black coffee. Like this."  -Dale Cooper

"Harry, I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it, don't wait for it, just let it happen. Could be a new shirt at the men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot, black coffee. Like this."  -Dale Cooper

"Harry, I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it, don't wait for it, just let it happen. Could be a new shirt at the men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot, black coffee. Like this."  -Dale Cooper

And marriage offers security and comfort, but sustained desire requires obstacles. So few couples know how to tackle this roadblock, and most just give up or cheat.

I just read a book called Mating in Captivity (which I sort-of paraphrased) that discusses this phenomenon and describes case studies where the author, a marriage counselor, helps couples rediscover what they were attracted to in their partner before marriage, and helps deconstruct infidelity and the attitudes we have about it. (No, it doesn't suggest cheating, or dress-up.)